Have you ever believed in something that ended up in crushing disappointment or embarrassment?
Did the experience make you stop believing? Did it make you change what you believed? When we realize life is hard, and some of our believing is crushed by broken promises, unmet expectations, hurt feelings, or disappointments, we have a tendency as humans to quit believing or change our beliefs. There are some eternal optimists who can keep believing, but most people will either just stop believing or make drastic changes to their beliefs.
When I was in my 30’s, I felt God told me the person I was to marry.
I had wanted to get married and have a family and had been waiting for awhile, so this was great news to me. I didn’t do anything about it initially, because I thought if God told me, He would also tell the guy. While I didn’t come right out and say something, I would put myself in position for him to see just ‘how wonderful I was.’ Now that I look back at things, it wasn’t pretty. But regardless, in the moment, I thought this was the way to go. This pattern went on for quite a few years. I went out with other guys, but nothing really came of it. I truly believed God had given me a heads up about His plan for me and that I had met my future husband.
Finally, after five or six years, I decided to send him a letter and ask him. I know, that may sound dumb, but in the middle of it all, I didn’t think it was a bad idea. I sent him a letter right before I left the country. He called me after I returned, at which point to tell me he wasn’t interested. Although disappointed, the bottom-line was that I was ok with it and I was glad I got my answer.
Now I knew he wasn’t interested.
He went on a mission trip a few months later and met a friend of mine. They ended up getting married. But the bigger issue for me was that I TRULY BELIEVED God had told that he was the one. So if I believed that, and it wasn’t true, then what can I believe? Can I believe what I feel God tells me? How do I know it’s Him? And can I really believe what He says?
With all the emotions and disappointments that life brings, including my crushing experience, at some point we have to decide if we are going to BELIEVE. And I mean REALLY BELIEVE what God has said, even when we don’t see any shred of evidence of it being true. Our other option is to sit in the emotions of disappointment and hurt.
Sitting in disappointment and hurt is not an option for me, so I choose to believe God.
If we choose to believe God, what are we going to believe? Should we believe that He will give us whatever we want? I’m pretty sure it doesn’t quite work that way. Although Psalm 37:4 says:
“Delight in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart,”
It is more complex than that. That topic is for a different post. There is not a single verse in the Bible to support that believing in God provides us with all of our wants and desires. Rather, we need to choose to believe in what God has told us in His Word about who He is and what that means for us.
So what is it that God has said?
He gave us the Bible, full of truth, so there’s quite a bit He has said. Here a few examples:
- God has called us His children (John 1:12)
- God loves us deeply and more than we can understand (John 3:16)
- We are daughters of the King (2 Corinthians 6:18)
- He has great and wondrous things for us (Luke 1:49)
Believing when there is no evidence is very difficult and discouraging some days.
However, I will choose to believe the promise He made to me, that I will meet someone someday. That’s a hard one, right? There is no Bible verse that says I will meet a husband or that He will provide that for which you are praying- which could be a healing, relationship restoration, children, job, or financial issues. But when all is said and done, I will continue to believe and experience the goodness and greatness of God! I can believe without a doubt that He loves me, He has amazing things for me, and He will never leave me. Because even if the things I am believing for don’t happen, God does not change, and He is a God who keeps His promises.
“Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful.” Hebrews 10:23
Micki is a Senior Manager in Internal Audit for a research institute and is located in Raleigh, North Carolina. After experiencing many years of professional success, she felt God’s call on her life to something greater, and it led her to Wheaton College, where she is currently working towards her master’s degree in Evangelism and Leadership. She has a desire to understand the Bible further and doesn’t want to miss out on what God is doing! She loves traveling, baking, and her Chocolate Lab, Bear.