7 Sneaky Symptoms of Pride
Written by Guest Blogger, Fabienne Harford
The thing about pride is that it’ll kill you. Forever.
The other thing about it is that it’s super hard to identify. Pride is a distorted view of self. If you ask someone who has that disease to tell you what they look like, the very nature of the disease makes it impossible for them to tell.
You cannot conclude that you don’t struggle with pride because you don’t see pride in your heart. You must instead investigate pride by looking out for the symptoms (I stole this straight from a killer Jonathan Edwards essay):
1. Fault finding.
Spiritual pride causes us to talk about other people’s sins with laughter or contempt, frustration or irritation.
Humility on the other hand speaks with grief and love.
2. Ministering in a harsh spirit.
Those who have the sickness of pride in their hearts speak of others sins with contempt, irritation, frustration of judgement.
3. Faking it with people.
When pride lurks in our hearts we are far more concerned with others perception of us then the reality of our hearts . We fight the sins that effect how others perceive us and make peace with the ones that no one sees. We have great success in the areas of holiness that have high visible accountability, but little concern for the disciplines that happen in secret.
4. Easily offended.
True humility feels no need to defend self. It is not concerned with rights, but instead just continues in doing good, entrusting the soul to our faithful creator.
5. Presumption before God.
Some of us have a shortage of boldness before God, but if we’re not careful we can forget that He is God. Sometimes we feel no confidence before God. Sounds like humility, but in reality it’s another symptom of pride. In those moments we are testifying that we believe our sins are greater than His grace. We doubt the power of Christ’s blood and we have a gaze set on self instead of Christ.
Humility approaches God with humble confidence in Christ Jesus.
6. Hungry for Attention.
Eek. This one hits a nerve for me.
Pride is hungry for attention, respect, and worship, in all it’s forms. Maybe it looks like being the person up front boasting. Maybe it looks like being the person who is unable to say ‘no’ to anyone because you are hungry to be needed. Maybe it looks like thirsting for marriage, or a better marriage, because you are hungry to be made much of.
7. Neglecting others.
Pride honors only those who the world deems worthy of honor. There’s a thrill that goes through me when people with ‘power’ acknowledge me. There’s an eagerness to respond to emails about my blog when I recognize the name of the sender. Blick.
The reality is, I struggle with pride.
Good news. I can use that realization to fight pride. I can turn to the glorious Gospel in which we stand and make much of God: His grace and forgiveness. I can confess my inability to overcome this horrific heart and rely on His strength to deliver me even from the hardest and the most arrogant of hearts.
Which one of these do you relate to the most?
Thank you Fabienne for sharing!
Fabienne Harford is a writer who is passionate about people and spending her life being real and speaking truth. Fabienne wants every last drop of her life to be spent being a part of what God has for her and letting other women know the truth of God’s word: He will not fail us nor forsake us. If you would like to read more of her writing, be sure to check out her blog!